To Spend the Money or Not To Spend the
Money? To Buy It or Not To Buy It? These are not the questions if we
are really debating whether to purchase something or not. Can we
expect our better judgment to "win out" over the prospect of
having something or not having something? Usually, we cannot. Impulse
spending which we regret is bad enough, but there is also another kind
of spending. . .
We are looking at a new coat
... should we buy it, or not?
We are thinking about a new compact disc player
, . . . should we buy it or not?
We listen to the salesperson extol the features of a new Walkman
.... yes or no?
We are deciding to spend that twenty,
perhaps thirty dollars, or not?
We've all been there. . . a hundred times, a thousand times! All too
often we will have annoying feelings afterwards, often subconscious,
that we could have used that money to better advantage. It is usually
vague; not a conviction, just a feeling. It does tend to spoil the
pleasure we might have otherwise gotten with the purchase. Worse than
that, it leaves us without the money, money that could have been used
for wiser purchases, or for saving or an investment program.
How do we avoid a habit of impulse spending or other spending we regret?
Unfortunately our spending habits can almost never be broken. Nor can
they be pulled out like an aching tooth. Breaking a wasteful spending
habit is usually no more successful than breaking any other bad habit.
It has to do with a vacuum.
Our high school physics demonstration showed us how a vacuum tries to
fill itself. When we try to rid ourselves of bad spending habits ...
we create a vacuum. We know that what goes into that vacuum at the
very first opportunity is the same bad spending habits. There is a
solution, an approach that works far more effectively than trying to
break the costly habits. We call it SPENDING BY CHOICE.
Instead of saying to ourselves, "Should we spend this money or
not?, " we should say, ""These are dollars I'm going to spend. Am I sure this is how I
want to spend them?" This can be a Positive Holding Action.
"Maybe I should not spend this money" we say to ourselves.
However this is what the Institute of Consumer Financial Education calls negative input. As
such, it's easy for the mind to ignore or rationalize so we can make
We are on the way to SPENDING BY CHOICE; when we
implement a Positive
Holding Action, by merely asking ourselves HOW we want to spend
it ... instead of asking if we would. Our instinct to SPEND is
satisfied. We are not trying to break a habit. We don't have to
overcome psychological resistance. This is Step One in learning to
SPEND BY CHOICE.
Step Two is to give ourselves some choices. What else could be purchased that we
have wanted or needed for a long time, with the same amount of money?
With that thought process we have given some control to Logic, a
mental process we all have. Unfortunately we often become addicted to
impulse, spending, wants ... but not needs.
A lady once told me, "The suit I was thinking of had been priced
at $300. The second time I tried it on, it had been reduced to $195.
My immediate reaction was to buy it and save that $105. It is exactly
what I had been doing for almost 20 years, and I have the closet to
prove it. Then I remembered your SPENDING BY CHOICE
formula for saving money. Right away I thought of three different
things that cost about as much. Two of them, in more logical moments,
were things I ranked ahead of the suit when I thought about it."
She went to confirm how easy it was to say NO, when she was really saying YES
to something she wanted even more. That's the way it works
and that's why it works. Why not decide right now to try SPENDING BY CHOICE.
If you form this habit and develop this ability while you are younger,
it can be worth a fortune. Don't be fooled that this rather easy
technique is too simple. Simple solutions often work much better than
more complicated solutions.